Everyone has a father. This is also true when it comes to spiritual matter. Paul is the spiritual father of Philemon and Onesimus. He would continue to teach Philemon how to look at the situation of Onesimus in the remainder of the book of Philemon.
Commentary:
Philemon 1:8-9. Paul stated his reason of writing the letter. Paul did not want to use his apostolic authority to compel Philemon to do the right thing. Rather Paul preferred to petition to Philemon in love. His appeal started with his condition as a prisoner and an elderly man. Philemon probably recalled the younger days of Paul and the difference that Paul had made in his life. As years had gone by, Paul had made much sacrifice for the sake of the gospel and the saints. At the time of writing this epistle, Paul winded up in prison because of the gospel.
Philemon 1:10-11. Paul was the spiritual father of Onesimus and Philemon because he led them both to Christ. His relationship with Onesimus was deepened because of two reasons. Firstly, their encounter was dramatic because He met Paul in the prison in Rome. The other reason was that Onesimus had stayed and helped out Paul. Onesimus perhaps was not an important slave in Philemon’s household, but he had become an important helper of Paul and the ministry of the gospel.
Philemon 1:13-14. Onesimus was no longer morally bound to be Philemon’s slave, although he was still a slave by law. When God called him to be Paul’s aid, that duty overrode all other jobs. But legally Onesimus had to obtain a release from Philemon in order to do God’s work.
Paul said that God loves a cheerful giver (2 Cor 9:7). In the same way, he encouraged Philemon to release Onesimus. But Philemon ought to give out from his heart, not out of compulsion.
Philemon 1:15-17. Paul then showed Philemon a heavenly perspective. Philemon did not lose a slave, which was temporal, but he gained a beloved brother eternally. Hence, he had additional help for the gospel.
Philemon 1:17-20. Paul lastly petitioned Philemon to put the cost in perspective, if the ledger sheet ever became an issue. Paul wanted the expenditure to be put on his account. Although Paul did not have a mean to repay it (v. 20), Paul reminded Philemon that he owed many times over to Paul.
Philemon 1:21. Paul, like a good father, knew Philemon and had confidence in him.
Meditation:
Who is your spiritual father? This is important for two counts. Knowing our spiritual father helps us preserve the spiritual lineage in our life. We can see the blessings of God has bestowed upon us. Knowing our spiritual father is also a way to track our growth over the year. Check where we are against our mentor is a great way to check our progress in Christ.
The other reason is to bless our spiritual father. In addition to giving thanks for what God has put in our life, we can repay our spiritual fathers for they have done in our life. Assist them in their ministry. Give money, time, or resources to help them. Yield to them for they probably know what is best for us and the gospel. Like Philemon, we should give to our spiritual father what they need.
Prayer:
Dear Heavenly Father, we thank you that you have given us a spiritual father to lead us to Christ. Reveal to us their needs and give us the resources to help them. In Jesus’ name we pray. Amen.